5 Main Responsibilities of the Perfect Bridesmaid
You’re here today because you’ve accepted the ultimate position, to be a bridesmaid! Congrats to you and of course the bride and groom. More importantly, you’re here today because you’re determined to be the perfect bridesmaid for that special lady. Although there are plenty of tasks to care of when holding this role, such as, helping to pick the perfect wedding dress, there are 5 main responsibilities that are of the utmost importance. Be there, be honest, represent your best self, be prepared, and lastly, remember it is not your wedding. Let’s take a deeper dive into each responsibility.
- Be There & Be Ready
As a bridesmaid, the bride relies on you to be there, keep her sane and have the wedding run smoothly. In wanting to keep her sane, you have to make sure you’re listening to what she wants; listen to her needs and worries, and do your best to keep her calm and help out however you can. You also need to be there for her physically. A lot of your time is requested in the planning of a wedding, and she expects you to not only be there for her virtually but to be there physically too. Try to attend at least one pre-wedding event and make yourself available to her as much as possible in the week leading up to the wedding (especially the day of). Most importantly, for any event or appointment, do your best to be on time and make sure you’re part of the reason it runs smoothly.
- Be Honest & Helpful
The planning process of a wedding can be stressful for both the bride and groom, so you definitely don’t want to complain, however in appropriate circumstances, voicing your opinion can be helpful. When deciding when and how to be honest, read the situation and consider if your opinion will be helpful to the couple, or more problematic. When it comes to being helpful, going above and beyond, although appreciated, isn’t required to be the perfect bridesmaid; instead, use your best skills, knowledge, and connections to contribute where you can. Bringing your best to the table (and the other bridesmaids bringing their best to the table) will provide the bride with everything she needs and in the best quality possible.
- Look Your Best & Represent Your Best Self
At the absolute minimum level, your role as a bridesmaid is to be in pictures on the wedding day, you are by the bride’s side for many photos as well as throughout the ceremony, so it’s important that you look your best. Try not to make drastic changes to your appearance close to the big day as it may cause disruption in the bride’s vision for her wedding. For instance, she may intend for every bridesmaid to rock a specific updo, whereas if you cut your hair, that can no longer be done. Your actions and personality should also be at their best. You are there to witness the joining of two individuals, their lives are becoming one, and therefore the most important people in their lives will be in attendance at the wedding. Your role is to make the wedding memorable, for the right reasons, so avoid over drinking and causing unforgivable scenes; instead, focus on keeping the energy up and making sure guests are having the time of their lives.
- Be Prepared, Practice Makes Perfect
An important job of the bridesmaid is to be a problem fixer. Trust when we say, something will be forgotten, lost, or unthought of, so be prepared for everything. Have a list of all vendors, entertainers, and services involved with the wedding as well as their contact on hand. Prepare an emergency kit, to undo any problems that occur on the wedding day; include tools to aid with hair, makeup, dresses, mentality, and definitely breath. Have a deep understanding of the bride’s expectations so that you are doing everything to make sure they are fulfilled at the end of the day. When it comes to being a bridesmaid, you also have to take care of yourself, so be sure to keep you in mind on this busy day; stay hydrated, take a breather when necessary, and also don’t forget to eat. Lastly, practice your speeches! You don’t want to embarrass yourself at the last minute. A little practice goes a long way and nailing your speech can be a simple, yet vital, part of making sure the day runs smoothly.
- Remember it’s Not Your Day
Perhaps your day has passed, maybe it’s coming someday soon, but either way, this one is just not it. Keep that in mind throughout the entire process, and through every decision that is made. The bride sees her wedding being a certain way, and after weeks, months, or maybe even years of thinking about this day, it’s finally her time to make her dream wedding come true. You are there to support her and not to criticize, judge, or complain. Try not to pull the attention away from her on her special day or throughout the planning. Make sure you’re there for the bride every step of the way, and always keeping yourself in mind of course.
At the end of the day, there may be a lot involved in planning a wedding, but as a bridesmaid, you will be the perfect contributor if you remember and properly execute these 5 responsibilities. For information on what’s involved in being a bridesmaid, check out The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Perfect Bridesmaid.
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