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Everything a Bridesmaid Needs to Know for Pre-Wedding Events

Buckle up and grab your pen and paper because you’ve just entered the school of bridesmaids. Congratulations to the couple, and you, of course, for being asked to join them on this special occasion. We know you’re excited to party hard at the bachelorette party and help the bride search for the perfect wedding dress, but first, there are a few other elements that we think you should be aware of when it comes to being a bridesmaid. Let’s jump right into everything you’ll need to know when it comes to your role in planning and helping to execute all of the pre-wedding events.

The Pre-Wedding Events

  1. Engagement Party
  2. Bridal Shower
  3. Bachelorette Party
  4. Stag and Doe Party (Jack and Jill)
  5. Welcome Party
  6. Bridesmaids Luncheon
  7. Rehearsal Dinner
  8. Engagement Party

At the bare minimum, the expectation is for bridesmaids to attend the engagement party if one takes place, an event that introduces the soon-to-be-married couple. The responsibility of hosting the engagement party will likely fall on the bride and groom or their parents; however, in being such a helpful bridesmaid, you may offer to help make food orders, complete bookings, or DIY some decorations. When it comes to gifts, understand that they are not entirely necessary, but typically close friends and family members of the bride and groom will arrive with an offering. (No need for the gift to be elaborate or expensive, something small and sentimental works wonderfully.)

The Engagement Party Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – Maybe
  • Do you need to host – No
  • Do you need to pay – No
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – No
  • Do you need to buy a gift – Yes
  1. Bridal Shower

A bridal shower isn’t always necessary, but bridesmaids will hold a lot of the responsibility for planning and hosting this event if their bride opts for it. This celebration for the bride to be will require deciding on a budget, guest list, theme, and much more. Unfortunately, this is one of the events that will depend on yours and the rest of the bridesmaid’s wallets since you’ll be splitting the cost.  The bridal shower will be the first ‘all hands on deck’ event for the bridesmaids, so it’s essential to be open-minded, communicate often, and be available to the maid of honor whenever possible. Also, be sure to chat with the bride; the bridal shower should be based on an interest or theme that she would appreciate, and don’t forget to purchase a gift for the bridal shower.

The Bridal Shower Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – Yes
  • Do you need to host – Yes
  • Do you need to pay – Yes
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – No
  • Do you need to buy a gift – Yes
  1. Bachelorette Party

Like every other event, the bachelorette party requires a lot of planning. Yes, you guessed it. It’s on you bridesmaids to plan this bachelorette party, at its core, being a celebration for the bride who is leaving her single days in the past. It’s essential to include the bride in certain decisions towards the beginning of planning, especially when it comes to the chosen theme (please verify if she’s okay with a naughty themed event before proceeding). Still, in the end, it’s up to ‘team bride’ to pull off this event (and pay for it). The bachelorette party can become an event that includes a trip, in which case, you’ll want to make sure you’re planning and booking your hotel and travel accommodations early. Gifts are not required, but small raunchy joke-type gifts or lingerie are typical go-to’s.

The Bachelorette Party Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – Yes
  • Do you need to host – Yes
  • Do you need to pay – Yes
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – Maybe
  • Do you need to buy a gift – Maybe
  1. Stag and Doe Party

Some couples choose not to hold a stag and doe, but for those who do, it’s usually a fun event (which goes by many names) with games, drinks, and activities hosted to help raise money for the wedding. The stag and doe is typically a collaboration of the entire wedding party, so the groomsmen get to join in on the planning and execution (which will give some relief to your budget). No need for gifts at this event; instead, you can charge guests an admission fee; since the stag and doe event’s goal is to raise money, if you’d like, you can bypass a gift and contribute funds as well.

The Stag and Doe Party Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – Yes
  • Do you need to host – Yes
  • Do you need to pay – Yes
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – No
  • Do you need to buy a gift – No
  1. Welcome Party

The welcome party is somewhat of a newer tradition that presents an informal setting for the bride and groom to welcome their guests to all of the upcoming wedding festivities, a day or two before their marriage. If you’re attending a destination wedding, all guests should be invited to the party, whereas if the marriage is local, the couple may opt for inviting only those who traveled from out of town. As a bridesmaid, you are free from hosting, planning, and paying for this event. Just make sure you show up if invited.

The Welcome Party Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – No
  • Do you need to host – No
  • Do you need to pay – No
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – No
  • Do you need to buy a gift – No
  1. Bridesmaid Luncheon

The bridesmaid luncheon, like the rehearsal dinner, will take place during the weekend of the wedding. In some cases, bridesmaids plan and host the luncheon in honor of the bride, but usually, it’s the bride that will use this event as an opportunity to thank each of her bridesmaids for their hard work. Besides the bridesmaids, in attendance may be the bride and groom’s mothers and the flower girls. Without the responsibilities, the luncheon becomes a different atmosphere where guests can just sit back, relax, and enjoy themselves; the luncheon can also hold various appearances, from restaurants to mani-pedis, depending on the vibe the bride plans to achieve.

The Bridesmaid Luncheon Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – No
  • Do you need to host – No
  • Do you need to pay – No
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – Maybe
  • Do you need to buy a gift – No
  1. Rehearsal Dinner

The rehearsal dinner isn’t an event for bridesmaids to host, but the bride and groom may ask for assistance with planning and executing the event. This dinner should take place the night before the wedding, right after rehearsals, and have the wedding party members in attendance. Bridesmaids don’t need to factor this dinner into their budget as they likely won’t be paying, and there’s no need for a gift. Similar to the welcome party and bridesmaid luncheon, since they all take place on the same weekend, if you’re attending a destination wedding, accommodations will already be factored in.

The Rehearsal Dinner Checklist:

  • Do you need to be in attendance – Yes
  • Do you need to plan – Maybe
  • Do you need to host – No
  • Do you need to pay – No
  • Do you need to arrange accommodations – Maybe
  • Do you need to buy a gift – No

Bridesmaids hold a significant role in planning and executing a wedding, but most of their contributions show in all of the pre-wedding events. If you’re a bridesmaid, make sure you’re aware of every piece of the wedding that requires your involvement. For more info on what it takes to succeed in this role, check out The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Perfect Bridesmaid.

 

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