The Bride’s Survival Guide: Do’s And Don’ts For Parents Of The Newly Weds

Wedding day is one of the most important days in the life of a man and woman who love each other for a long time, or even for a short time for some. But a wedding will only be possible when the parents of both the bride and groom gave their blessings and allowed their children to exchange vows. A couple should always consult with their parents regarding their wedding plans including the bride’s wedding dress, as a form of respect. They should also prioritize their parents during their preparation stage.

Even when married, the couple should always look back and help their first family. The parents should also give their hundred percent support and love to their child and to their child’s in-laws. They should also respect the decisions of their child regarding his or her own family, but they can guide and help in case the couple needs to.

For the parents, they should also let their child discover life lessons on their own. That is why there are a lot of things that a parent should and should not do for the wedding ceremony and reception program of their children.

 

Do’s for the parents of the couple

The parents can offer their help and accept rejections if the couple has already plans for their suggestions. But they should always be by the couple’s side when their children are planning for the wedding day.

• Ask the couple if they need help and guidance

Most of the couples eye for a successful wedding that is why they do prepare and plan a lot for this one. Sometimes, they need opinions and suggestions to make their wedding unique and successful.

Parents should first ask their children if they need help regarding wedding plans before offering their help. This can avoid misunderstandings and conflicts between the couple and the parents.

The couple must learn to accept guidance and help from their parents. The parents should also learn to respect their children’s decisions for the wedding day.

• Communicate with the guests during the wedding ceremony and reception program

Commonly, the invited guests of the couple for their wedding days are also close to the parents of the bride and groom. So, it will be easy for the parents to communicate with the guests during the wedding ceremony and reception program.

This can also help to entertain the guests and avoid dull moments during the wedding day. The parents could also find happiness talking to the guests. And the guests would feel more comfortable when the parents of the bride and groom are talking to them.

• Plan and prepare your wedding speech for the couple

The speech from the parents of both the bride and groom will always be part of the program for the reception or wedding day. They are given the chance to share memories or stories of them with their child.

To be ready when this part of the program comes, the parents are advised to plan and prepare their wedding speech. The parents should only include stories that can make the couple and guests happy and avoid giving messages that will be a cause for the couple to feel uncomfortable.

• Help the couple when deciding on who will be the invites

Because parents know well about their children, they should help the bride and groom come up with a list of people who will be invited for the wedding day. The parents can help them with how many per family or per friends should they be sending invitations.

This is also one way to make the wedding plans more organized because parents are known for being organized to everything that they do. Parents can also help in controlling the number of guests that will be appropriate for the couple’s budget.

 

Don’ts for the parents of the couple

There are things that parents of the couple should avoid when their children are planning for their wedding day.

• Change the plans of the couple if they are final with it

Parents should always help their children when planning for a wedding, but they should also know that they have limitations. Couples do dream for their wedding day so there are plans that they want no matter what happens.

The parents should respect the plans of their children, especially when it is final and when they dream of it for a long time. They can give suggestions or opinions if they think that the plan needs a little improvement.

• Insist to pay the costs of the wedding

Couples do save their money for their special day because most of the weddings are costly. The parents should support the couple with monetary assistance if the bride and groom ask for it.

But there are couples who want to shoulder all the fees for their wedding as a form of gratitude to their parents. And most of the couples do not want their parents to have problems regarding the wedding day.

• Wear the clothes they want to

A wedding theme is being chosen by the couple so that their wedding day will be more pleasing to the eyes and will be more successful. The attire of the parents should correspond to the wedding theme.

It is also advisable for the parents not to wear white because the said color is reserved for the bridal gown which will help to make the bride unique and outstanding during the wedding ceremony.

• Invite people that are not included on the original plans

Some parents invite guests for the wedding day without informing the couple about it. They should always stick to the plan of invites by the couple to avoid conflicts, especially during the reception program.

Couples also want to have guests that they are close to. They also choose guests that are witnesses to their love story and the people whom they love to celebrate with on a special day. So parents should not invite more guests if the couple does not include them on the plan.

Wedding planning can be stressful, but to help you with it, read here: https://www.callablanche.com/post/bride-s-survival-guide.

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Annie Spratt
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