The Bride’s Survival Guide: How To Impress Your Soon To Be Parents-In-Law
On your wedding, it is not only your wedding dress that people will look at but also how close you are with your new parents in law. It is actually but normal that you have to try reaching out to the parents of your husband to be. When you get married, they will be part of your family. You have to make sure that your relationship with them is good and smooth sailing. You do not need to be too close to them, good if you can, but at least try to build a good relationship with them so that your spouse will not have a hard time weighing things between you.
As early as possible, or before the wedding, it is best if you already start building good relationship with them. Not just because you do not want others to notice that you are not having a good relationship with them but also, you want to make sure that when you and your soon to be spouse is officially married, you will start your new life full of happiness.
The biggest question is actually, how will you do that? Here are some of the most helpful tips and guidelines you may want to start with.
- Treat your soon to be spouse with respect
If they see that you are treating their child with respect, they will automatically like you. Of course, they only want what is best for their child so the fact that they can see how much you love and respect their child is enough for them to like you.
- Dress up
As much as how you want to show who you really are on your first meet, try to wear something normal and formal. Sure, you can wear anything that comforts you when you are all chummy but on the first few meetings, it is best if you put your best food forward first.
- Show some interest on their hobbies
You do not need to fake it, like saying you are a Chicago Bulls fan even if you are not. You may put yourself in huge trouble if you actually do that as when they throw questions to you about it, you are left stunned and speechless. If you do not have any idea about what they are talking about, try to find something that may interest them as well, like running, gardening, baking etc.
It would be really nice if you find their hobbies interesting as well but never force it.
- Speak nicely to everyone
When you go out, say you dine in a restaurant, treating the waiters with respect will give them an impression that you are not only trying to put a show but you are a genuinely nice person. If there is nothing to be mad about, then do not be. Anyway, it is always right to have good manners whether you are with your soon to be parents in law or even when you are alone.
Show them that you are really nice and you really know how to treat everyone right.
- Bring your special dish
Whether it is baking or cooking gourmets, impress your soon to be family with something you are good at. Of course, if they ask you for the recipe make sure to give it away. If you are not into cooking, you do not have to bring your mom’s cooking and pretend that you cook it. If cooking is not your forte, try to bring something you made personally or at the least, you can bring a cake instead from your favorite bakeshop.
- Do not be afraid sharing your opinions
There is completely nothing wrong if you have different interpretations, beliefs and understandings, you are free to share your opinion but make sure to say it in a subtle and respectful manner. What made differences awkward is when someone pushes that she is right and the other person is wrong. Respecting your opinions and point of view is a must to every family.
- Invite your mother in law for an outing with your mom
Why not invite the two ladies somewhere? If you and your mom love to have your nail polished, invite your soon to be mother in law to join you as well. This way, you are showing her that you are not treating her just the mother of your fiancé but your mother too. Of course, invitation may not be sent on the first meet up but as soon as you are comfortable with her, invite her immediately.
Although, it is not just your partner’s mom you have to please, trying to reach out with the other members of the family like your partner’s dad, siblings and even extended family is a must. As previously said, when you tie the knot with your husband, they will become your family too.
- Ask them for advices
They may not know everything but asking them for opinions is a good way of telling them that their opinions are important and valued. Anyway, their experiences can help you a lot tackling the hardest and most difficult times of you and your soon to be husband relationship. They know better as for sure, they have gone through it and are able to succeed as well.
- Try their favorite wine even if you hate it
You have to be open minded and ready to adjust to anything as you accept your new family. If they love camping but you are obviously a city girl, keep a smile on your face when you are on a camp site with them. For sure, it is not only you who is adjusting here as accepting you and inviting you to their family trips is also a big adjustment they have to make since you are their family now.
Building a good relationship with your in-laws is a must. Going back to your wedding planning, here is a link that can help you: https://www.callablanche.com/post/the-ultimate-brides-survival-guide/
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