How To Keep Terrible Speeches Away From Your Wedding
Wondering how to keep terrible speeches away from your wedding? Big or small, wedding is all about two hearts getting binding as one. As your partner proposes to you, the next thing you have in mind apart from telling your loved ones the good news is, what wedding dress you would wear. No one to blame as woman wants to look their best on their wedding. Thus, they want to make everyone feel envy as they walk down the aisle wearing a very beautiful and elegant dress.
One of the worst things that may happen on your wedding, is a speech that is meant to uplift you will cause you embarrassment and complete dismay. Worry not as much! There are many methods to minimize the chance of a tragic speech to happen on your big day.
With a few work exerted, you are sure that your wedding is free from any possible speech disappointments and mishaps. Check these great tips on how to keep terrible speeches away from your wedding!
Touch base on your chosen speakers beforehand
Of course, you never want to hear their speech before the big day, but touching base with them to remind them about things you do not want to hear on your wedding is a good idea. If you two have deep dark secret when you were in college that you do not want anyone else to know, remind him/her of not telling the crowd about it.
Be honest and direct to the point so your speakers won’t say anything that may surprise you. Also, reaching out to that person would get you an idea whether they really want to speak in front of your guest or they are just being forced to do so.
Tip: Just not to sound offensive, it is best that you remind your speaker that you are not speaking with them to micromanage or tell them what they need to say. You are reaching out to her because you want to make sure that nothing will make you feel bad as speeches are being delivered.
Have someone you trust check on the speeches
As previously discussed, speeches should come as a surprise to the bride and groom. It should not be divulged until the time it should be delivered. So to make sure that all speeches are perfect, you can have a trusted friend read the speech of your maid of honor and share with her, their inputs.
But just for your maid of honor or anyone else you want someone to go over their speech. Tell them that you are doing this to ensure that everything will run smoothly on your wedding.
Actually, they should understand, it is your big day hence being a bit nervous is normal.
Give your speakers time limit
To avoid long speeches, give your speakers a time limit. Actually, even if they wrote the speech beautifully, if it is too long, it may be awkward and boring. Sure, you cannot demand it. You will never know whether they will follow with your limit or not. Needless to say, it is always better to say it than not. Be fair when giving out time limitations. If you give your maid of honor 10 minutes that same goes with the best man, and the rest of your chosen speakers. It can be a bit insulting if you give one of them shorter time limit. Even if they do not know each other, there is still chance for them to compare notes.
Do not feel shy to suggest time limit, as long speeches may lead you to extension of venue hours.
Make sure that your speakers drink and eat enough
Just to make sure that their speeches are clear and energized, make sure they had enough food. Keep them well hydrated as well! You do not want a sloppy speaker in front of the stage. Hence making sure that they are energized is a good idea.
Choose your speakers wisely
Okay, this is not rocket science. Make sure that you choose your speakers wisely. The person can be very close to you. However, if you do not think that they can deliver a good speech, take that person off your list. Of course, you want your speakers to be lively and happy, so choosing wisely is a must.
Apart from his/her speaking abilities, you may also want to consider how close you are with him/her. If possible, avoid choosing a speaker who knows just the bride or the groom. It is best if the speaker knows the couple very well and can say something to each of them. You would not want a speaker who will forget your partner’s name as they speak.
If you want a lively environment, it is best if you choose your group’s comedian. Choose a speaker that can hype up the event and can give your wedding a nice kick.
Remind your speaker limit their alcohol use
Yes please, do not forget to remind your speaker about not drinking too much before they deliver their speech. Sure, he can take a few shots of tequila but not beyond what he/she can handle. You do not want your speaker looking drunk as he/she shares his/her speech. Also, too much alcohol may make them spill some beans that were not a part of their original speech.
We hope you now have all the information you need to keep terrible speeches away from your wedding! Excited about your wedding? Who would not, right? To learn more tips and tricks to plan the perfect wedding, check The Ultimate Bride’s Survival Guide.
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