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The Bride’s Survival Guide: Things About The First Look At Weddings You Ought To Know

What is the first look at a wedding? This is when the couple sees each other on their wedding day for the first time before the start of the wedding ceremony. It is normally a private time for the couple far from the eyes of friends and family. It is a modern-day wedding tradition, but not meant for everyone.

So if you are the type of couple who would wish to do a first look photoshoot, then go ahead and know everything you need to know about it. Several couples don’t want to do it for a variety of valid reasons.

If you want to do it, you have to understand its pros and cons. After you have understood them, then you can decide whether you want to go for it or not. At a wedding, you have to do what you think is best for you, and not for everyone else.

If you don’t want a scenario where you will see each other before walking down the aisle, that is what the two of you will decide together. You should not allow anyone to put pressure on you into deciding what you think is not right from the bottom of your heart.

Why a first look might be good for you

  1. You will be able to meet each other before the actual wedding ceremony. Any fears, stress, nerves or jitters will have disappeared before the wedding ceremony starts. You will be calm and wholly present at your wedding proceeding. Most couples have confessed that the first time they see each other on the aisle is as powerful as when they see each other for the first time before the commencement of the wedding.
  2. If your wedding is during winter, you will have time to take your portraits before it gets dark.
  3. If you think you will cry when you see each other for the first time, a first look will give you enough time to freshen up before the actual ceremony begins.
  4. You have options to choose where your first look will take place. If you want it to happen on a staircase outside, or in another location where you feel it will be romantic and cool, it is all up to you. The lighting and setting can be controlled by whoever is taking the pictures.
  5. If you take your family portraits including yours during the first look, it will save you time not to miss out on the cocktail after the wedding ceremony.
  6. It will enable you to have enough time to take portraits of the two of you together. You can spend time taking your portraits from various locations as per your desires. If you wait until cocktail hour to take them, time will be limited as there are also family formals which will need to be done.
  7. There is privacy. No prying eyes, no guests who will be taking your private photos with their mobile phones, no bridal party to cheer or clap. It is a private moment for the two of you.
  8. You will have enough time to allow you as a couple, to emote. If you wait to do it during your ceremony or after, you will have to get into the ceremony itself. A first look at the wedding day will enable you to hold each other and be in that moment as long as you want.

Why might a first look not be the right choice for you?

  1. If the first look will take place on your wedding day, you will need to wake up early, get ready earlier, and be in your wedding clothes for a longer period.
  2. Some couples freak at the idea of emoting on cue or even being told to react in a certain way.
  3. Your bridal party, your parents, and guests will not be part when you are having your first look. It can be a meaningful, emotional moment for them, especially your parents. If you are not sure how they will feel, ask them first. Will they be upset because your first look was in their absentia? That is important to factor in as you make your decision whether to have a first time or not.
  4. If you are for the tradition of seeing each other for the first time at the wedding ceremony, then stick to that. If you have a good photographer, they will find a way of getting some beautiful portraits out of the situation with the limited time after the wedding ceremony.
  5. It is possible that your dress becomes dirty early. If you decide to go to gardens, parks, or any other outdoor location, it will be hard to ensure that the dress remains clean. If that bothers you, then getting a first look on your wedding day is not an option for you.


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Hermes Rivera

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