The Bride’s Survival Guide: Things Not To Do After The Engagement
Then he asked you the most life-changing question “Will you marry me?” The excitement and happiness you may feel are overflowing. Of course, in a few months or a year or so, you will be trying to know the person with whom you will spend and share the rest of your life. As the wedding comes to a close, one of the things you are thinking about so seriously is the wedding dress you will wear. Of course, you want to make sure that you look your best on this special day.
As the bride to be, there are things you need to avoid. Sure, if you want your wedding to be successful and you want the engagement properly executed, you have to be very careful about some things.
Things You Must Not Do After The Engagement
Just to help you get everything smooth sailing, instead of discussing things to do, here are some of the things you must avoid:
- Posting the good news on your social media before telling your family and friends
This is one of the most common mistakes couples do, instead of telling their family and closest friends about the good news, they will announce it on social media first. Okay, your family and close friends would surely see it on your post but that is not the best way for them to know about it.
You do not need to go to them personally if you have no time, but at least give them a call and break the news. Do not be contented sending them messages as they may not be able to read them. These are the most important people in your life and they deserve to know the engagement first hand.
There are some people before they propose they ask the parents of their partner for permission. Although old fashion, this is still the most respectful way to make a proposal.
- Planning for the wedding immediately
Okay, you can start with choosing a venue and a theme, but a week after the proposal may not be the best time yet to reserve a venue and book vendors. Cherish the moment you are engaged and talk about the details after a few weeks or even after a month.
There is so much to enjoy being engaged, and it is nice if you celebrate it first. Wedding planning and preparation can be stressful and if you start it immediately or a few days after the engagement, you may not be able to cherish this wonderful moment.
- Choosing wedding dresses for you, the bridesmaids, and the rest of the wedding party
One of the very first things you need to decide on after the engagement is not the dresses or the attires for your wedding but the date of the wedding and the venue. You have to make sure that the dresses you will choose would fit the season and the location of the ceremony and the reception.
The dresses should match your chosen venue and season, not the other way.
- Setting on specific wedding details
You may have been dreaming of a huge wedding, or a wedding full of glam and elegance, but sticking with it may not be the most ideal considering that there are things that are meant to change as time goes by. Be open to suggestions, do not close your heart to something that may be better or beautiful. Focus on what you can afford and not just what you want.
- Delaying on the money you plan to spend on your wedding
Another thing you have to decide on the earlier part of your wedding planning is the budget. You would not want to plan any other matter of the wedding without deciding on the amount you can afford to spend. There are so many options to consider, but it is your budget that can determine which among the options is best for you to choose.
Do not delay planning your budget. Discuss with your partner the budget you can spare for the wedding and decide on the rest of the things.
- Saying “yes” to everything
You would definitely hear a lot of suggestions, like where to celebrate your wedding reception, what kind of food to serve, the number of guests to invite, the photographer to hire, and so on. Saying yes to all of it may not be the most ideal as you always have to decide based on what your heart desires and not what others suggests.
Also, you will just get more stressed if you keep on considering what others want.
- Giving people too many information about your wedding
Not until everything is set, sharing details with your invited guests is not a good idea. It is best if you complete all your wedding details first, finalize them before sharing information with others. If possible or if you can wait, details about the wedding are best to share after invitations are distributed.
- Focusing on the smallest details
There are so many things to think about your wedding, if you are still in the high of your engagement, thinking about the smallest details like how does the invitation would look like, the flowers of your wedding party, etc. You can decide on the big details like the venue and the date but spare yourself from stress by thinking about everything about your wedding.
- Signing an agreement or contract without your partner’s consent
So, you may be thinking that since you are already engaged, you can decide on your own. That is not the case as you still have to consider your partner’s inputs all the time. Of course, it is also his/her wedding, and his/her decision should also count. Deciding on your own, especially for major decisions, is also not okay even after marriage.
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