The Bride’s Survival Guide: Ways You Are Making Wedding Planning Stressful
A wedding can be very exciting but mind you, the preparation can be very stressful and tiring. Even if you are wearing the best wedding dress if you look haggard, you will still look ugly. One of the things that couples do is hire a wedding planner who can help them organize, prepare, and plan for their wedding. But, unfortunately, there are a lot of things at your wedding that you have to prepare and decide on yourself. Sure, the stress will be lessened but it will surely never go away completely.
The wedding preparation can be stressful, and to tell you the truth, there are a lot of things you are doing that is actually making it more and more stressful. Avoiding it can slash a lot of your stress.
To help you further, below are some of the things you may want to assess and if you are guilty, stop it immediately.
- You are treating wedding planning as a second job
Actually, it is, but that should not make you feel that you are working double or even triple shift daily. Wedding preparation should be fun, as just like your most awaited wedding, you will only pass by this experience once in your lifetime. Sure, this is your second job so just like your regular work, you have to take a break and off. Step back a little, relax if it is already overwhelming. Get a break from the busy wedding planning process.
- Do not get too stressed with the little things
One thing is for sure, one way or another, there is something that will falter on your wedding day. If you are a natural perfectionist, this is something that you might not accept but unfortunately, you have to accept this fact. If something went wrong, especially if it is just a small issue, forget about it, let it pass, and move in.
Even in stories, you read in magazines or movies you watched there is a problem that will come up in weddings even how planned and organized it is. So the best you can do is to prepare a backup plan and be calm.
You sometimes have to accept things the way they are and enjoy whatever it is you have on hand.
- You are doing everything all by yourself
One of the things you have to think about and always remember is that wedding is not just about the bride or not just about the groom, it is an event for the both of them, so, it is only fair that both of them will work for hand in hand to make their wedding successful. Do not take all the responsibilities if you can’t. Do not let only one person work on everything. The work should be shared fairly by both of them or if one has more time, he/she can take more responsibilities, but taking all, even those you cannot handle anymore is not good at all.
Do not feel like you are the only one responsible here because that is not how it works at weddings.
Also, apart from your soon to be spouse, seeking help from your closest friends, relatives, and the wedding party is also something to be considered.
- You are thinking a lot about your finances
Wedding expenses could be more expensive than what you imagine, hence the best way to handle your wedding finances is to stay organize and accept things that you can only afford. Make sure that you prepare a wedding budget and be sure to stick with it. Do not go beyond what you can afford, one of the usual reasons why couples are so stressed out is they are actually spending more than what they can. Who would not be stressed knowing that they are all broke after their wedding?
If you think or feel that money is going to be an issue, you can always postpone the wedding until you saved enough. Sure, you can always consider a small wedding, but if you want grand yet the money you have for now is not enough, you can move it to a time when funds is already available.
- You failed to organize
If you are not organized, you will just end up with a lot more problems in the future. Clutters and messiness can add up big time to stress you feel. Creating a planner can help you make everything organized. List down all things you need to do, file all paperwork in a file folder, and have a calendar. It can be hard, but doing this can help you a lot and can surely minimize your stress.
- You are always compete
Thank you to social media as people do not stop comparing themselves to others. Do not make your wedding compete with other weddings nor never compare it to other weddings. Your wedding is your wedding, and never dream to have a wedding like someone else. You may also compete with the number of likes and shares your videos and photos receive, same as with the number of guests and so on.
Learn to be happy with what you have and what you can afford, it is not a competition all the time.
- You are just worrying too much
Some people are just so easily getting nervous. If you are the type of person who easily gets anxious about small things it is time to learn the skill of relaxation. Sure, you want everything perfect but worrying too much about small things or even issues that have not arrived yet is not good at all.
Do not worry as there is always a re-do in case things won’t work right, you can request for renewal of vows, a second photo shoot, or even have another cocktail with your family and friends.
There are just so many things about a wedding you need to know about, to know more, click on this link: https://www.callablanche.com/post/the-ultimate-brides-survival-guide/
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