What You Need to Know About Small Weddings
Hello soon to be married couples! Today we’re here to give you a bit of a pep talk because we understand how stressful wedding planning can be – even for a small wedding. If you haven’t made this realization just yet, we’ll let you know that:
- You’re not crazy! Larger weddings are supposed more stressful to plan, but…
- Planning a small wedding comes with its own set of drama and stress
Disclaimer: The real title of this blog post should be: “It’s Your Wedding You Can Plan How You Want to.”
Whether it be your wedding dress, venue, or approach to your ceremony, chances are somebody will have something to say about your wedding planning strategies, but we want to remind you that it’s your wedding, so you can do with it as you please. There are numerous reasons you could have chosen to hold a small wedding, but no matter the case, you have unknowingly stumbled upon certain benefits.
- You have permission to personalize and customize
When considering your destination and venue, there are virtually no limitations. The only thing you’ll have to keep in mind is the number of guests you want in attendance on your wedding day. Think of the endless opportunities that arise when it’s scaled down to an elopement, for instance, with just you, hubby, and your officiant. Rooftop, mountain top, treetop – any top really – if you can think it, you can marry there.
- You don’t need to feel awkward about your decisions
You and your partner will make some selections as a team that may not be well-received by others around you – for instance, the choice to elope. Your decision to keep things significantly scaled back may hurt your loved ones and sadden them because they want to be a part of this big day to witness your union – which you understand entirely. Hopefully, your loved ones come around to respect your decision and continue to offer their support for your marriage.
- You have the freedom to ditch the traditions
Feel like dancing to Bruno Mars’ – ‘Marry Me’ while you head down the aisle? Go for it! No one’s stopping you – well, they can try. Many brides are deviating from Wagner’s traditional ‘Here Comes the Bride’ when considering how they will walk down the aisle; you can feel free to try it for your wedding as well. Another tradition you don’t need to comply with entirely is the old, new, borrowed, and blue recipe. This tradition follows an old English rhyme that says having these four items (something old, new, borrowed, and blue) at your wedding will provide you with good luck in various areas of life. In keeping things customized, some brides today choose to upgrade this tradition by creatively using these items throughout their wedding day. For example, if you’ve heard someone say you should wear your mother’s wedding dress for something old, maybe you use a strip of fabric and use this to tie your bouquet together.
- You shouldn’t feel constricted because of a small wedding
Down to the details, you can change anything and everything involved in a wedding (besides the legalities). Feel free to live out your little girl dreams and wear a broad sparkly ball gown; or on the other hand, you should also feel free to simplify your wedding day look and wear a simple short dress if that’s what your heart desires.
Small weddings are meant to be a pure representation of you and your partner; it wouldn’t be worth it otherwise. Be sure to keep things true to yourselves, and try not to get bogged down by any disagreements from your loved ones. Somewhere down the road, they will learn to accept your decisions. For everything you’ll need to know about a small wedding, visit our Ultimate Guide to Small Weddings.
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